*sigh*

My poor former roommate. Turns out her boyfriend really was one of the biggest assholes I've never met. I guess he told her the other night that all this time (16+ months) he never really loved her. And that he still wants to be close and hang out and he wants her to come to Ring Night (or whatever it's called...some Army thing at West Point in New York), and wants to give her the ring because he bought it for her. What a moron.

And then he tells her that all his friends think that he and she fight too much, and he agrees, and he thinks that he has to try too hard for the relationship, and that it should just happen. No relationship "just happens." You have to work at it. Both parties do.

He wants to date other girls, and y'know, maybe there's a chance that when he gets done with school, he and her can be together again. What is his problem? She's losing all kinds of faith in all kinds of people. Including people she thought she loved, and she thought loved her. I just feel so bad that I can't be there to hug her. Y'know? She lives 8 hours away from me. It's just not that easy. Ugh. It's rough. I was able to be there the last time he did something to her. But now I can't, and it sucks.

I want to just sit there and tell her that things are going to be better, in a few years, she'll look back at all this with a light heart because she'll have found someone else. But I don't think she wants to find someone else right now. She can't live her life vicariously through mine, as I've been through a similar situation, and I know this. She's gotta learn it for herself. But man, it's hard to sit there and watch her do it. I just don't know.